Chapter 1


  • Baker, A.J.L. (2014). Co-parenting with a toxic ex: what to do when your ex-spouse tries to turn the kids against you. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
  • Behrman, L.J. & Zimmerman, J. (2018). Loving your children more than you hate each other. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger.
  • Blackstone, J.B. & Hill, D.L. (2020). Co-parenting through separation and divorce: putting your children first. Itasca, IL: American Academy of Pediatrics.
  • Justice Education Society & BC Ministry of Justice. (2022). Families change: a guide to separation & divorce.
  • Ross, J.A. & Corcoran, J. (2011). Joint custody with a jerk: raising a child with an uncooperative ex: a hands-on, practical guide to communicating with a difficult ex-spouse. New York: St. Marti’s Griffin.

Chapter 2

Resources for Parents

  • Clarke-Fields, H. (2019). Raising good humans: a mindful guide to breaking the cycle of reactive parenting and raising kind, confident kids. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
  • Coloroso, B. (2010). Kids are worth it! raising resilient, responsible, compassionate kids. Toronto: Penguin Canada.
  • Faber, A. & Mazlish, E. (2012). How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk. New York: Scribner.
  • Faber, J. & King, J. (2021). How to talk when kids won’t listen: whining, fighting, meltdowns, defiance, and other challenges of childhood. New York: Scribner.
  • Lafrance, A. & Miller, A. (2020). What to say to kids when nothing seems to work: a practical guide for parents and caregivers. New York: Routledge.
  • Lapointe, V. (2016). Discipline without damage: how to get your kids to behave without messing them up. BC: Lifetree Media.
  • Penfold, S. (2005). Helping my child: a guide to supporting children exposed to domestic violence. BC Children’s Hospital.
  • Siegel, D.J. (2016). No-drama discipline: the whole-brain way to calm the chaos and nurture your child’s developing mind. New York: Bantam Books.
  • Siegel, D.J. & Bryson, T.P. (2019). The yes brain: how to cultivate courage, curiosity, and resilience in your child. New York: Random House.
  • The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (2015). Children and domestic violence for parents fact sheet series.
  • Waters, L. (2017). The strength switch: how the new science of strength-based parenting can help your child and your teen to flourish. New York: Avery.

Resources for Working with Mothers

  • Bancroft, L. (2004). When dad hurts mom: helping your children heal the wounds of witnessing abuse. New York: Berkley Books.
  • Buchanan, F. (2018). Mothering babies in domestic violence: beyond attachment theory. New York: Routledge.
  • Harris, E.H. (2017). Helping children exposed to violence at home: an essentials guide. London Family Court Clinic.
  • Hoffman, K., Cooper, G. & Powell, B. (2017). Raising a secure child: how Circle of Security Parenting can help you nurture your child’s attachment, emotional resilience, and freedom to explore. New York: Guildford Press.
  • Hughes, D.A. (2009). Attachment-focused parenting: effective strategies to care for children. New York: W.W. Norton.
  • Iwi, K. & Newman, C. (2011). Picking up the pieces after domestic violence: a practical resource for supporting parenting skills. Philadelphia, PA: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Leutenberg, E.R.A. & Liptak, J.J. (2016). Family breakup and survival workbook: reproducible activities to address the challenges families face today. Duluth,
  • Minnesota: Whole Person Health & Wellness Publishers.
  • McDonald-Harker, C. (2016). Mothering in marginalized contexts: narratives of women who mother in and through domestic violence. Bradford, ON: Demeter Press.
  • Radford, L. (2006). Mothering through domestic violence. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Straus, M.B. (2021). Cool, calm & collected: a workbook for parents and children to co-regulate, manage big emotions & build stronger bonds. Eau Claire, WI: PESI Publishing.

Group Facilitation Resources

Chapter 3

Communication Skills

  • Boghossian, P.G. (2019). How to have impossible conversations: a very practical guide. New York: Lifelong.
  • Hanks, J.D. (2016). The assertiveness guide for women: how to communicate your needs, set healthy boundaries, and transform your relationships. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
  • McKay, M., Davis, M. & Fanning, P. (2018). Messages: the communication skills book. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications.
  • Nichols, M.P. & Straus, M.B. (2021). The lost art of listening: how learning to listen can improve relationships. 3rd ed. New York: The Guildford Press.
  • Rosenberg, M.B. (2015). Nonviolent communication: a language of life (3rd ed.). Encinitas, CA: Puddle Dancer Press.

Response-based Approach

Moms and Kids Playing Together

  • Gray, D.D. (2014). Attaching through love, hugs and play: simple strategies to help build connections with your child. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Gray, D.D. & Clarke, M. (2015). Games and activities for attaching with your child. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • LaVigne, M. (2020). Play therapy activities: 101 play-based exercises to improve behavior and strengthen the parent-child connection. Emerville, CA : Rockridge Press.
  • Booth, P.B. & Jernberg, A.M. (2010). Theraplay: helping parents and children build better relationships through attachment-based play ( 3rd ed.). San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.


  • Chown, A. (2018). A practical guide to play therapy in the outdoors: working in nature. New York: Routledge.
  • Fisher, C. (2020). Mindfulness & nature-based therapeutic techniques for children: creative activities for emotion regulation, resilience and connectedness. Eau Claire, WI: PESI Publishing.
  • Harper, N. (2019). Nature-based therapy: a practitioner’s guide to working outdoors with children, youth, and families. Gabriola Island, BC: New Society Publishers.

Art, Music & Writing Activities

  • Friedberg, J. (2020). Music with babies and young children: activities to encourage bonding, communication and wellbeing. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Gibson, N. (2018). Therapeutic photography: enhancing self-esteem, self-efficacy and resilience. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Malchiodi, C.A. (2020). Trauma and expressive arts therapy: brain, body, and imagination in the healing process. New York: The Guildford Press.
  • Malchiodi, C.A. & Crenshaw, D.A. (eds.) (2014). Creative arts and play therapy for attachment problems. New York: The Guildford Press.

Other Caregivers

  • Archer, C. & Gordon, C. (2013). Reparenting the child who hurts: a guide to healing developmental trauma and attachments. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Naish, S. (2018). The A-Z of therapeutic parenting: strategies and solutions. London: Jessica Kingsley.
  • Schwartz, C., Waddell, C., Barican, J., Gray-Grant, D., Dickson, S., & Nightingale, L. (2014).
  • Kinship foster care. Children’s Mental Health Research Quarterly, 8(3), 1–16. Vancouver, BC:
  • Children’s Health Policy Centre, Faculty of Health Sciences, Simon Fraser University.

Chapter 4

Diverse backgrounds

Indigenous parenting

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